It's a time of disillusionment, but having been confronted with the harsh reality, you will be forced to look for solutions to your issue. If you stay pragmatic and renounce of playing the blame-game you may even make an important step forward in your relationship.
You should finally say goodbye to concepts that don't work. Try the freenfield approach and go for something truly different.
It's all about relaxing - you may ask yourself what really helps you to let go your fears and ease your tensions. It may be a calming massage or a walk through the woods.