Something is not quite right; disguised digs and jibes have crept into your relationship. Try to get to the bottom of this and find a fair solution.
You have some challenges ahead of you and the other only chance to overcome them is true always be ready to compromise with a pragmatic approach you might get much further than you would expect.
Your inclination to go to extremes that does not do you any good. It is time to find the right balance and to know your boundaries.